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Post by lcdc1 on Jan 16, 2008 20:29:50 GMT -5
yeah I hope the school says that a couple indiviuals reported him so it is not your son against the freaky boy and his friends - they better include language to that boy and his family that retaliation in any form or fashion will not be tolerated and will result in further discipline.
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Post by katiekat on Jan 16, 2008 23:24:36 GMT -5
I hope they do a little more than that.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 17, 2008 0:05:41 GMT -5
She sent me another e-mail asking me to try to get my son to name some names as the kids who are lying about not seeing it are also part of the problem.
They are taking it seriously but until they get someone to speak up, its my son's word against the other kid's.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 18, 2008 14:16:32 GMT -5
Yea! My son had an early day today and he just gave me 3 names of boys who were there. I had asked one about it and even though he denied knowing anything about it, I could tell. He is my cousin's son so it wasn't hard to read his expression.
Once my son knew I was talking to kids he gave me 3 names of kids who were in the cubicle when it happened. I didn't ask him why 5 boys were in there since they are made for one at a time. I have a feeling they all went in to harass him.
I sent the names to the principal and dean of students. My son is terrified of what the boys will do to him now. Please pray he stays safe.
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Post by misty on Jan 18, 2008 14:21:04 GMT -5
I'm certainly praying. I wonder...won't your cousin's son stick up for Jonathan? Blood ties should mean something.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 18, 2008 14:42:32 GMT -5
My entire family is wonderful but for some reason that kid's grandmother who is actually my cousin is totally different. I won't call her the name I am thinking of but it starts with two-faced and continues. Her daughter and the boy's mother is very much like her. They all will deliberately set out to hurt people emotionally.
Frankly, the boy is very quiet and subdued at home. You wouldn't think he had it in him to be anything but nice until you saw him away from his mother and grandmother. You would think he was a totally different kid.
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Post by bugsmom on Jan 18, 2008 15:24:16 GMT -5
Praying that the other boys come clean. Your poor son shouldn't have to put up with that. Keep us updated.
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Post by lillian on Jan 18, 2008 15:53:03 GMT -5
I've avoided reading this thread because I've been stressed over my son's IEP meeting. I saw, "Sexual Harrassment" and thought of work and thought, no, not today. I've got to think of other things. Focus, focus. So, I would like to apologize for not responding earlier, Barb.
This young man dropping his pants has a problem. It's not surprising that no one wants to tell on him. I'm sure the kids are scared of him. You say he has an IEP. Well, he may need to have his meds tweeked, if he's on meds, or he may need to have his psych, if he has one, confront him on this behavior, for it's crossing the line into sexually aggressive behavior or conduct disorder, and it needs to be looked at closely. It may just be stupidity on the child's part, but it's out there stupid.
I would be open with your son about all of this because he's old enough to understand. I would explain to him that this child has a serious behavioral problem. I would want to make sure that my child did not internalize it, as being his issue and not the other child's.
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Post by lillian on Jan 18, 2008 15:59:57 GMT -5
You know what? I'm going to ask my son what he thinks about this when he gets home. I'd like to have a fourteen-year-old's perspective.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 18, 2008 16:13:41 GMT -5
We have known this child all his life. We were neighbors when both boys were born and were neighbors for several years. The boy was extremely mean to other kids, including my cousin's son for years. I think my cousin's son has become friends with him as a means of self protection as much as anything.
Everyone, including the bully's parents are aware of his problems. I don't know what the diagnosis is but I'm sure its for some type of personality disorder. The more I know him and about what he does, the more I believe he is a psychopath and that scares me.
He seems to be able to choose which personality to put on depending on who he is around, and is very charismatic. He scares me. I am constantly telling my son not to ever be around him or him and his friends when he sees them around town because I don't trust what he would do if he thought he could get away without getting caught.
For some reason he has hated my son since they were toddlers. I have reason to believe part of that may be based on jealousy. They have more money in his family but his mother isn't very nurturing and the cops were at their house frequently before his parents split up. I think they called the cops on each other for abuse when they fought, which was often. An environment like that when a child is prone to psychological problems to begin with is a recipe for disaster.
Its ok about you not being able to deal with this Lillian. A transition IEP is something that requires a lot of time, thought and is emotionally trying. No one should have to worry about other things on top of working on that. I understand.
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