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Post by lillian on Jan 18, 2008 16:32:20 GMT -5
I hope this kid is seeing a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. Yes, I definitely would have a long talk with my son about the child's past, his jealousy over not getting the love he saw your son receive, and his current behavior evolving from this. I wouldn't want my son to feel sorry for this child, but I would want my son to understand, so he could stand back from it a bit and observe it, as a knowledgeable observer, instead of feeling like a victim. Does that make sense?
All of us, unfortunately, will most likely run into someone who just despises us because of what we have that the other person wants and can't get. I would turn this into a learning and maturity lesson for my child, especially at his age. He needs to know what's going on with this kid, to avoid him at all times, and to unemotionally report any future bullying or inappropriate behavior to you, the principal, and the counselor. And, of course, you know this, but document, document, document. The school needs to provide counseling for this child. If he does anything else, I would consider reporting him to the police.
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Post by annem on Jan 18, 2008 16:34:50 GMT -5
Oh CG I am so sorry to read this ...  From what i am reading you are doing everything you possibly can to get this dealt with ... I can't think of one more thing you could do that you haven't done ... I am just hoping like mad that the interventions will work ... and this will be the end of it ... I also agree that abuse (in its various forms) carries on down the generations .... just as violence begets violence ...  I just hope that this is knocked on the head by the school completely and that this can be something you and your son can put firmly behind you ... |
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Post by lillian on Jan 18, 2008 17:25:27 GMT -5
My fourteen-year-old's response:
"A kid pulled down his pants in front of everyone? He's in middle school? What a stupid thing to do. If a kid did this to me, I'd laugh at him and get all my friends to laugh at him. Mooning is retarded. No one does that, anymore." I then mentioned the possibility that the kid rubbed his butt on the other kid, and my son said, "I'd kick his balls up his throat, but if any other kid saw him do that at my school, everyone would be calling him gay and making fun of him."
So that may give you an idea how other kids would view this, who aren't running with the instigator because they are afraid of him.
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Post by jill on Jan 20, 2008 9:17:16 GMT -5
I am wondering what else was going on in that household for it has affected him greatly.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 24, 2008 0:38:47 GMT -5
I gave the names of some kids who were there to the school but haven't heard anything back yet. My son says the bully was given out of school suspension for 10 days. He is enjoying the peace but the kid was suspended for doing drugs. He is doing drugs and he is only 12. |
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Post by katiekat on Jan 24, 2008 7:36:39 GMT -5
Wow. That is sad. There is definitely some serious issues going on there.
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Post by misty on Jan 24, 2008 9:08:07 GMT -5
Cg...Shannon has a friend who does drugs, smokes & has sex & shes just 12 or 13 too. How sad is that! I'm always afraid that Shannon will think its cool because her friends does it. I'm hoping to keep her innocent as long as I can. I would never let Shannon go over to the girls house.....what is happening to the world that kids are no longer acting like kids at the age of 12 & 13? Its scary.
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Post by lcdc1 on Jan 24, 2008 10:51:13 GMT -5
this is not a good situation by any means, but it is not just this day and age that has had that problem with drugs, it was pretty common in the days I was in middle school. Happens in our town at that age also.
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Post by charliegirl on Jan 24, 2008 23:14:45 GMT -5
This is getting scary. The bully's best friend is in the same English class as my son and they had to write about something that excites them. The teacher handed to bf's paper back to him and told him she hoped he never did it because its never good to hurt someone. Now I am worried sick on top of just worried.
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Post by puzzled on Jan 25, 2008 11:41:01 GMT -5
If that child wrote a paper saying that hurting someone/something excites him, I would think that it would be the teacher's duty to report that to the school authorities. That is a huge sign if they are fantacizing about it....
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