How long til my babysitter quits?

[katiekat]

Well it took shorter than even I thought it would...3 days,a total of 9 hours all together but the babysitter had to talk to me about Sean's behavior today. She is someone my husband has known for years and is well aware of the issues Sean has had and Sean really likes her so I thought it may work out.....but lets see. He is completely out of control, doesnt listen to her, and this may be the one that forces her to hand in her notice-he is constantly screaming at her son who as I mentioned before just turned one. Anyhow, I give it a month. Did you ever hear that song "Mr. Mom"? Yeah well I told my husband that's gonna be his theme song soon.

[crazyhouse]

Who had the good idea to get a babysitter? I just have to ask because with my little holy roller the only person I can trust is my mother and father (they both have to be home) for anything longer then 4 hours.

then I have a nieghbor who is in her late forties and spends a lot of time with our family, has had to see my sweet little boy in full action for several months before I left them alone together. Then I only leave her with the boys when I am going to be gone for 30min to an hour shoveling snow or picking my husband up from work.

People who have more children then I do can not handle my darling son. My husband and I have agreed that he will go to work and bring home the paycheck to pay the bills, and when he comes home I go to work after he gets home for about 3 hours a night 6 nights a week for a few reasons. Sanity, self worth, and extra spending money. It makes thing easy and difficult at the same time but it worth it to be at home with the kids during the day.

[jj]

I'm sorry Katiekak that it is off to such a rough start. Maybe the babysitter will learn some coping skills and maybe your son will learn to tolerate the little pesty 1 yr. old. I can just invision the little one year old wanting to be around him every minute. LOL

I sure hope it works out but it doesn't sound promising does it?

[katiekat]

Crazyhouse-Getting the babysitter was my idea. I had to go back to work before I completely lost it. I have never not had a job and not working was necessary for my own mental health. He's only there for 3 hours 4 days a week.I am done work at 2:00. My husband does not have a set time that he gets done work so I could not work at night. More importantly my older son is in school all day and always has some sporting event at night and Im not willing to miss his games and also just never see him because Sean cant behave at a sitters.

[misty]

Hmmm.....I saw your post last nigh, KK, & was thinking about it. I did a search & found a site where you can plug your state in & it gives you all the centers in your area (babysitters, daycares, etc) for kids with special needs. CLICK HERE

It says its a respite locater, but when I tried my state daycares & other similar places came up. Its a starting point anyway.

Meanwhile, find out what he does at the sitters. I mean do they actually play with him, or just watch him. I'm not wording this right, I know. Maybe you could send some simple craft projects (They have some great crafts that are cheap come with all the pieces you can order from Oriental Trading Co) or something to keep his mind & fingers busy. Or, if the weather's nice maybe the sitter could let him go outside for a half hour & run off some excess energy before being expected to be nice to the little 1 year old for the rest of the day.

Just some ideas. Good luck! I hope you find something that works!

[puzzled]

True misty, if he is pretty much left to his own devices, he is going to act out. See if the sitter will allow playdoh (many people are afraid of the mess), or send some construction paper and scissors, a glue stick and crayons or washable markers, and instruct him that you want a picture when you get home!

If he is kept busy with 'big boy' activities, he may be able to tolerate the toddler better.

[crazyhouse]

I'm sorry KK I totally understand having to go back to work for mental health. I did that the middle of August. The suggestions that Misty had were Awesome. If you like your babysitter, you should definately try to work with her on the special needs of your son. I personally love being able to let Jake run free (wheather and Asthma permitting) because he seems to be able to focus after he runs the bug out of his butt! With our babysitter she spent time with us to see how Jake acted and the actions we took to guide Jake in and out of wandering and tantrums. She would go to the store with us, out to dinner, rent movies with us, go to the park, ect. This didn't happen over night but he respects her and listens better when she's around. I hope your babysitter works out it just might take time. Maybe even give her this website to answer questions she might have.

[katiekat]

Misty, when I click on the click here it says 400 Bad Request. Not sure what that means.
CH-You dont have to be sorry, I wasnt upset by your post, Im just tired of this situation. It's really taking a toll on my family.
As for the babysitter she has tons of stuff at her house. She has 2 much younger half brothers that she watches when they get home from school. The 11 year old has ADHD so she's familiar. When I got there the other day she was doing a jigsaw puzzle with him. They go outside alot-she told me Sean wanted to rollerskate so we went out and got him skates. She is pretty involved. And like I said Seans known her since he was born-he calls her Aunt. We really thought this was the optimal situation. It seemed so perfect but I believe no matter where he goes these same issues are going to caome up.

[puzzled]

Well then katie...I would say that she would maybe be 'tutored' on what works best for Sean....maybe walk her through a few scenarios that are common....and the ways that you have found to solve them...

Hopefully you will be able to work things out..

[misty]

katiekat said:

Misty, when I click on the click here it says 400 Bad Request. Not sure what that means.

Try this link:

www.respitelocator.org/